Funeral Reflection

A family friend reached out to me to ask if I could help their friend with a funeral service for their family member the week of Christmas. This would be the first funeral I officiated and I was honored and happy to help my friend and the family. The holidays are a time of joy and celebration, but can be also a time of sadness and grieving for many as they experience loss of loved ones, or are reminded of those they have lost.

The private ceremony I assisted at was very small and intimate. Despite the small size, many of the participants shared stories of their loved one during the time of reflection. Although the person was very accomplished in terms of what society might define as success, the stories shared were about the kindness of this person, how this person had deeply affected their lives, and how they were better for knowing this person. To witness these stories was a blessing and a reminder of what is truly beautiful and a sign of grace in life.

Since my transition from my previous vocation in security and law enforcement, my wife and I have made an effort of inviting our family and friends for dinner at our home more frequently. On Christmas Day this year, I invited my best friend and his family over. Despite the various ages of our children, they got along well and played together, allowing us to just be together as we listened to the children’s joy and laughter from the other room. We all sat together for a simple dinner and the kids shared stories and thoughts. We concluded with a kids versus adults charades game which was really quite fun and competitive.

As I sat with my friends and family on Christmas Day, I was reminded of the question: What is a good life and what is enough?